Spouse selection Conflict between Girls with their parents: A Phenomenological Study

Document Type : علمی - پژوهشی

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1 Department of Counseling, Faculty of Education & Psychology, University of Isfahan, Iran

2 Professor, Department of Counseling, Faculty of Education and Psychology, University of Isfahan

3 Assistant Professor, Department of Counseling, Faculty of Education and Psychology, University of Isfahan

Abstract

The present qualitative study aims to reveal the conflicts between young women and their parents in choosing a spouse in a phenomenological framework. The stati-stical population was all the young women who were in conflict with their parents when it came to choosing a spouse in Isfahan city and 15 young women were selected by purposeful sampling. The research tool was semi-structured intervi-ew. The data were analyzed by Colaizz analysis. The first theme is power dynam-ics with sub-themes: the young women power struggle with her parents to improve the conditions before marriage, the young women Inclination against the parents' idealism in marriage, the parents' Inclin-ation against the daughter's idealism in marriage, the second theme is the financial conflicts of the actor. The young women conflict with her parents over seeking financial independence before marriage, parents' materialism against the compreh-ensiveness of the young women criteria. The third theme of communication confl-icts with the sub-theme: generational gap, conflict between daughters and sisters in the field of marriage, general parent-daughter conflicts in different fields, con-flicting beliefs of parents-daughter in the field of marriage and the fourth theme of attitudinal-belief conflicts of Bazir theme: conflict over religious attitudes Between parents and daughters, the criteria of par-ents and daughters were different in marriage.
 
 

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Journal of Family Research
Volume 19, Issue 3 - Serial Number 75
December 2023
Pages 551-567

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